Love is simple–until it’s not! 

Ever felt like you are putting in every effort to show love to your partner, but it’s not quite hitting the mark? 

That is because relationships work on different kinds of love languages and not on a one-size-fits-all formula! What’s meaningful to you might not even make it onto your partner’s love list, and that's completely fine! 

You are different, and so are your love, expectations, desires, and thoughts! Showering with costly gift items or going on expensive dates might be your way to show affection, but what if your other half only craves to hear a heartfelt “I LOVE YOU?” 

This difference doesn’t mean they care any less! However, it’s just that everyone has their own way of expressing their fondness! This is where love languages come into play to bridge the gap. 

In this blog, we will talk about seven love languages every couple should know to connect on a deeper level. Whether you have been together for years or are just starting out, following these insights will help you build a rock-solid foundation for your love to last! 

The Story Behind the Popularity of Love Languages!

Aren’t you curious about how and who coined the concept of love languages? 

Well, the credit goes to Gary Chapman, a well-known American author, speaker, and counselor! He gained immense popularity after publishing his best-selling nonfiction book, “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate,” in 1992.

With a decade on the New York Times bestseller list, over 20 million sold copies, and translations in 50 languages, this novel is nothing short of iconic. 

Gary, through his book, enlightened one of the key problems almost every couple would relate to–speaking your own love language rather than your partner’s, which eventually resulted in unmet needs and misunderstandings.

Expressing his thoughts regarding a couple’s love language, Gary mentioned,

“Adults all have a love tank. If you feel loved by your spouse, the whole world is right. If the love tank is empty, the whole world can begin to look dark. Each of us has a primary love language. In a marriage, almost never do a husband and wife have the same language. The key is we have to learn to speak the language of the other person.”

For the ones who didn’t read his book, the following are the 5 love languages for couples:

Now that you are aware of Gary’s reflections, it’s time to decode love lingo!

7 Simple Ways to Build a Healthy, Happy Relationship!

Undeniably, there are countless ways to build a strong relationship with your spouse. But, here are a few ones that stand out as must-haves:

1. Sharing Responsibilities

Okay, guys, for some love means teamwork. No matter whether you are living together, are married, or have kids, you two must share responsibilities! That doesn’t mean you have to split everything 50-50 but figuring out the tasks work best for both of you! 

Splitting household chores, financial responsibilities, or even cooking duties can reduce stress and can free up more time for the fun stuff. 

Remember, teamwork makes the dream work. 

2. Celebrating Milestones

Consider this as a lifesaver for keeping up the spark in your relationship. Got promoted? Survived a tough week? Got a new job? Got a pet? Your birthday month? – no matter whether the achievement is big or small, celebrate it with full enthusiasm. But that doesn’t mean throwing a lavish party or going on a date at an expensive restaurant. 

A handwritten note, a small gift, a cozy dinner date at home, binge-watching Netflix, or even a bouquet of flowers can work wonders. Don’t wait for the big moments, even small, little wins deserve a toast! 

3. Humor in Love

One of the most important things you need in a marriage is hearing your partner say,” I just love having fun with you.” Whether sharing thousands of memes, cracking lame jokes, watching comedy shows, poking each other in fun ways, or going for comic gigs, laughter builds a bond that eventually becomes stronger and stronger! 

4. Be a Good Listener

Not everyone has the patience to be a good listener. In a relationship, actively listening doesn't just mean nodding while your partner speaks; it’s about truly hearing them without showing that “ I JUDGE YOU FACE.”

Remembering small details and letting the other person finish talking without interrupting are often seen as clear “green flags” in a healthy relationship. 

5. Sharing the “Food Love”

If you both have a knack for good food, consider it as a blessing that will keep you connected no matter what! You must have heard the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach, and that’s completely true! 

Share meals, try out new food outlets, and cook each other's favorite meals on the weekend. Doing all this stuff will not only bring you closer as a couple but will also let you satisfy your taste buds! 

6. Respecting Personal Space

Being in love and living under the same roof doesn’t mean you have to stick together 24/7. Sometimes, you also need your “me-time” to recharge, reflect on things, and grow individually. 

Your partner might enjoy hitting the gym while your idea of personal space could be savoring pizza and catching up on a binge-worthy series! So, give each other some “much-needed space” because creating this balance will automatically boost your connection. 

7. Being Supportive of Each Other’s Dreams

Supporting your partner’s goals- whether big or small- is a great way to show that yes, you actually care! Whether it’s about switching careers, learning a new skill, starting a small business, re-starting a job after maternity, or even resigning from an existing job– you must stand rock solid with your partner. After all, love is all about lifting each other higher!

Wrapping it All Up!

Alright to wrap up this blog, we must remind you that love isn’t about doing those grand gestures; it’s more about celebrating the little things! 

The foundation of any happy relationship is to keep the spark alive– irrespective of the years you have been together!

And to do that, we got you these simple, yet effective ways to create a bond that grows stronger with time! The only key to bridging any gap is understanding each other’s heart and making small changes to live up to each other’s expectations!