Getting married this year? That’s exciting!

So, you must be super busy juggling and hustling with all the wedding planning, right?

The excitement of choosing the venue, tasting the cake, picking the prettiest wedding dress, and figuring out every little detail– it’s a dream you will be living soon!

While you may have everything under control, there’s one thing you can’t always predict—how certain people might behave! 

It might be your bridesmaid who could turn a little bitter or a drunk uncle who just gets out of control- certain people can create unnecessary drama without even realizing it! 

So, before the big day arrives, it’s important to know who might throw a wrench into your plans! That is why we got you this blog!

It is packed with not only those nine types of people but also some marriage advice on how to handle them with grace!

1. The “I Know Better” Wedding Advisor

We all have seen a wedding expert who’s convinced they know better than you on how your big day should go. You’ll often hear, “Well, at my wedding, we did it this way,… or “You will regret it if you keep it this way,” and whatnot.

These people would often be the ones already married or some relatives with many opinions. From the seating arrangements to the wedding budget to the choice of flowers, they will be full of “best marriage advice” that can leave you wondering, “Did I make a wrong decision?”

They may mean well, but their advice can sometimes feel like it’s more about them than your vision.

How to Handle?

It’s totally fine to listen, but you’re in charge of your big day! Thank them politely for their input and divert the conversation somewhere else (or, you can also excuse yourself)! Don’t be afraid to set boundaries! 

2. The Bitter Bridesmaid or Groomsman

It’s not just your ex who could be a red flag– your bridesmaid or groomsman might be too! Sounds awful, but it’s true! Watch for these signs: 

• If your bridesmaid or groomsman is acting like they did a favor by attending your wedding.

• If they are jealous of you getting all the attention.

• Instead of celebrating your big day with excitement, they carry an air of bitterness that can quickly become contagious.

• They’ll continuously comment on wedding arrangements, your dress, or even your partner! 

• They might try to hide it, but rolling their eyes or sighing dramatically would make it obvious.

How to Handle?

Be kind, but set clear boundaries. You can even talk with them privately before the wedding to ensure things don’t get messed up. If they continue to be difficult, it’s best time to limit their involvement in the celebrations. 

3. The “All About Me” Person

It’s that person who turns every conversation, every moment, and every event into an opportunity to shine the spotlight on themselves! It’s all about them, all the time. 

• They try to make your wedding all about their own stories or memories.

• They will always specify how much they sacrificed just to attend this wedding.

• They might even try to outshine the bride with their outfits, speeches, or actions.

• Instead of celebrating your day, they’ll focus more on their own drama or achievements.

How to Handle?

Keep them in check by gently redirecting conversations or reminding them that it’s your day, not theirs. You don’t want to shut them down entirely (unless it’s totally out of hand), so try to keep things balanced and straight.

4. The Social Media Oversharer

The ultimate wedding crashers- “the social media oversharers” – are the people who document everything without thinking if you are okay with it. Their love for content can turn your private moments into a public affair! 

• They will post your pictures even before you get a chance to do it.

• They’ll be the first to post your wedding dress on Instagram or spill behind-the-scenes drama in a TikTok story.

• They might livestream your vows that you might have thought of keeping to yourself only.

• They might even share embarrassing candid photos that you wish had stayed off the internet.

How to Handle?

The best way to handle such people is by clearly citing in your invites about the “no-phone policy.” You can even designate someone to gently remind guests not to overshare pictures. If someone still oversteps, politely ask them to take down any posts that make you uncomfortable—your day, your rules!

5. The Unpredictable Guests

There could be some unpredictable guests who can throw wedding etiquette right out the window. While they may not intend to cause chaos, their actions- fueled by energy and a bit of champagne can add unnecessary drama to your D-day! 

• They might treat the bar like a free-for-all, leaving no cocktails untouched. And what’s much worse? Those alcohol-fueled arguments or oversharing on the dance floor.  

• They disregard the dress code entirely.

• They might even bring plus-ones along with them when none are invited.

• They ignore their meal choice or make awkward demands during dinner, like asking for last-minute substitutions.

How to Handle?

Firstly, limit the open bar if you plan to set one up. Include all the key details in the invitation very clearly. Always have a couple of extra seats and meals ready—just in case. Ask your friends or relatives to keep an eye on the ones who could tend to create unwanted dramas. 

6. The Drama Loving “Ex”

An ex who can’t just let it go? Well, think again before inviting them! 

Whether they are invited or show up uninvited, an attention-seeking ex can stir up unnecessary tension, eventually ruining your best day! 

Their presence can be nothing less than a ticking time bomb that can explode anytime! 

How to Handle?

Prepare your squad and alert them to keep an eye out for any ex-related drama, only if they show up uninvited. 

On the contrary, if the ex is invited due to shared friendships or family, keep interactions polite but brief. Remember, no matter what happens, the day is about celebrating your love—not revisiting the past.

7. The Careless Vendors

While vendors don’t come under the “guest- category,” they will be a part of your wedding from the beginning to the time it concludes. 

And careless vendors are an actual headache! From showing up late to messing up the details, these vendors can leave you questioning every contract you signed. One careless move from them, and your magical day could lose its sparkle. 

Some signs of negligence include:

• Surprise fees, hidden costs, or vendors who go off-script without consulting you first. 

• Being unresponsive to your concerns, unorganized, or rude to your guests. 

• Missing key details; doing exactly the opposite of what was discussed. 

How to Handle?

Okay, take it as the most crucial advice for a wedding day: carefully decide on your vendors after thorough research. A little research can save a lot of tears and stress. Have everything in writing, and follow up regularly with the vendors closer to the date.

8. The Mischievous Kids

Kids- no doubt they are adorable, but they can also turn into mini tornadoes when left out of sight! One moment, they are sitting quietly, and the next, they are running down the aisle like they are on some race track! 

Also, little ones seem undeniably attracted to gleaming things- your dress, the cake, the decor– consider nothing safe. Not to forget, when a kid decides they’ve had enough, they don’t hold back! 

How to Handle?

Create a designated area with games, movies, or snacks to keep them occupied and out of trouble. 

It’s your wedding, so there’s no shame in letting the parents know in advance what you’d like for their kids- whether it’s asking them to keep noise to a minimum or to limit certain areas for play.

You can even call for an adult-only party! Your wedding, your rules! 

9. The Complaining Relative

Isn’t it super frustrating to have a relative who never misses an opportunity to express their dissatisfaction about minor things in a wedding?

From disliking the food to pointing out how the decor could have been better, this person gradually becomes intolerable, no? But, you can’t help it just because he/she belongs to the family.

How to Handle?

Hearing anyone complaining rather than celebrating your love can quickly take a toll on your mood. 

But all you can do is not engage in the negativity. Be direct if needed, mainly when their complaints sound harsh. 

If you have a trusted person who’s not involved in the wedding, assign them to handle the complainer. Sometimes, an outsider’s perspective can help tone down the negativity.

Wrapping It Up

So, it’s a wrap! Remember, it’s your wedding, meant to be joyous, memorable, and full of love. 

While there can be some people who can unintentionally create a mess; however, it’s up to you to keep focussing on the things that really matter!

We hope these practical and valuable wedding day tips and advice on “how to deal with tricky guests or relatives” will help you make the most of your epic day. 

After all, what’s a wedding without a few stories to laugh about later?

If you have any stories to share with us about how you handled this “people situation,” our comment section is all yours!